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   When you want to
change an unwanted behavior, it helps to first understand why the child is
doing it. See Understanding Behavior: a Key to Discipline for some things to
think about when the child's behavior becomes a problem. The child's
developmental stage, the developmental readiness to learn new things, the
temperament, the emotional needs and environmental factors should all help
guide how we respond to the child's behavior.

                                                                                                         I   -The Different Types of Behavior Problems for
the Child

                                                                                                                                   A/ Temper Tantrums

  Tantrums are a
normal part of development. They happen most between ages 1 and 3 years, but as
so many of us know, some kids are huge tantrum throwers, and some are not. Many
children have more tantrums prior to and around the time of language
development. Before kids are fully verbal, they’re frustrated, and in that
sense of frustration or hunger or dissatisfaction, tantrums can be an easy way
for kids to try to get what they need.

                                                                                                                                     B/ Anger or Aggressive Child

        Anger is an emotion that is caused by
frustration. Aggression means trying to hurt a person or to destroy property.  Anger is a temporary emotional state caused by
frustration; aggression is often an attempt to hurt a person or to destroy
property. ... In other words, in looking at aggressive behavior in children, we
must be careful to distinguish between behavior that indicates emotional problems
and behavior that is normal aggression, and actually healthy. Children who are
angry and aggressive need support and coaching to help them manage their behavior
and responses in the classroom, on the playground, with friends, and at home.
Although many children have occasional outbursts of anger and aggression, the
children who consistently have difficulty controlling their emotions and behaviors
are the ones who need support in developing social skills.


   Biting is a very
common behavior among children, which means there are a lot of concerned
parents out there. You are not alone. The good news is that there is a lot that
parents and caregivers can do to reduce and, ultimately, eliminate biting. Children
bite in order to cope with a challenge or fulfill a need. For example, your
child may be biting to express a strong feeling (like frustration), communicate
a need for personal space (maybe another child is standing too close) or to
satisfy a need for oral stimulation. Example: From Zero to Three: Chew on this:
responding to toddlers who bite includes information on do's and don'ts,
prevention, how to respond, and when to seek help.


                                                                                                       II- How
can I change my child's problem behaviors?

1/     Tips for Changing the Children’s Problem Behaviors

If there are lots of behaviors you want to change, start by
focusing on one or two of the most bothersome or dangerous ones. Don't try to
make too many changes all at once.  They
are many tips for changing the children’s problem behaviors:

   - Let your child
make some decisions by giving them acceptable choices.  For example, ask, “Do you want cereal or
toast for breakfast today?” or let them choose between the red or blue pants.

   - Make sure you
have realistic expectations for your toddler’s behavior.  Teaching toddlers good behavior is handled a
little differently from school-age kids.

   - Have a few
positively stated rules, and explain the reasons behind them. 

   - Make sure your
child understands the results of breaking the rules.

    -Use natural and
logical consequences for problem behavior in parenting preteens and young
teens. The purpose here is to get kids to make the right decision, not to bend
them to your will. Be patient—it may take time for you to see results.

   - Be firm and kind.
Follow through on the natural and logical consequences.  Consequences are best if they are immediate
and consistent.

   - Catch your child
being good, and tell them you noticed. 

    -  Use descriptive praise.  For example, describe what you see:  “Wow, this room is so neat.  I see all the toys put away, and no one even
had to remind you!”, rather than evaluating with praise like “You’re a good
boy; good job cleaning up!”


-Learn how temperament affects kids’ behavior.  If you know your child’s temperament, you can
help them relate better in the world, and be sensitive in how you respond to
them.  This understanding can help
improve behavior.


                                                                                                                      2/ the Pediatrician


A pediatrician is a doctor who manages the health of your
child, including physical, behavior, and mental health issues. He's trained to
diagnose and treat childhood illnesses -- from minor health problems to serious
diseases. Pediatricians have an education that gives them special skills to
take care of your child's health. The parents should talk to your pediatrician
about a referral to a professional if your child is doing things that are
dangerous, harmful, or disrespectful to people or property.  If you see changes in your child’s behavior
or physical symptoms, like headaches or trouble with eating or sleeping, get
help.  Your child may have an attention,
behavior or disruptive disorder, and need help. 
Problems such as attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder, conduct
disorder, and oppositional defiant disorder require treatment by a health care


       When you want
to change an unwanted behavior, it helps to first understand why your child is
doing it. See Understanding Behavior: a Key to Discipline for some things to
think about when your child's behavior becomes a problem. Your child's developmental
stage, their developmental readiness to learn new things, their temperament,
their emotional needs and environmental factors should all help guide how you
respond to your child's behaviors.



                                                                                     -Frances L.llg, Louise Bates Ames, Sidney Baker: Child
Behavior: Paperback 1992

                                                                                      -Karen Duderstadt: Pediatric Physical Examination: 2 editions,
October 2013

-                                                                                      -Mercer Mayer: I was so Mad, Center for the Collaborative
Classroom, 2015

                                                                                       -To read the report, visit http://www.phoenixchildrens.com/about/community-outreach-education/effective-discipline.html.

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